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The Question:
Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to the their phone calls, and check their texts?
To invade privacy, it’s fine because the parents are the ones that actually pay for the child, and the parents are the ones who have brought the child into this world. If there isn't anything dirty or malicious in the programs/devices, then it shouldn't be a problem. Parents check for safety reasons. Sometimes, teens join gangs because of negligence of their parents; meaning teens sometimes don’t get enough attention so they have a need of being part of something bigger. Teens have minds that can be moulded for malicious activities like vandalism or illegally consuming a drug (alchohol, cocaine, marijuana, etc.).
ReplyDeleteThis leads to parents needing to check their devices. But on the other side, this sense of privacy and intimacy is something teens might cherish…This might lead to an outrage or eruption of rapturous activities by the teen because he or she feels like his or her feelings haven’t been taken into consideration, and that he or she is alone in this situation.
In my opinion, parents should be able to trust their teens with such responsibility. If they can’t trust them, why have they given them the title of teen? To be a young adult, you must take care of your actions, and misusing it just shows that you won’t be able to take on such responsibility.
In Conclusion, privacy is something that shouldn’t be invaded because it is a special sense of almost safety and peace, and parents should be able to trust their young adults.
This is true parents should not have the right to read their Childs stuff they should trust their child how would they like it if we look through there stuff I don’t think they would be happy. They should stop treating us like babies they should get over the fact that we are growing up. What kind of relationship can stay with out trust. I mean if they hold on to us so tight it will be harder for them to let go and they are going to have to let go. I understand that they had to do that kind of stuff before but know we are old enough to take responsibility into our own hand.it is just rude it is like they are forgeting every thing they taught us.
ReplyDeleteQuestion: Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts.
ReplyDeleteResponse: I am on both sides; I agree and dis-agree with this statement because one, the parents have a right of checking there children’s mail, read there diary, listen to their phone calls and even check there text messages, but at the same time it the child right to keep it there own privacy and there own business what is going on in there personal life, but at this same time and at this point the parent’s have to do their job and be in the children lives, and check what they are doing and what they are up to. In my opinion I think that the parent’s shouldn’t check the children’s mail, read their personal and full filled diaries, listen to their personal phone call with their friends, and check there personal text. Notice how I kept saying personal because it is apart of their personal lives and they shouldn’t be apart of it.
If I was a parent, I would think that doing all those stuff would be wrong because I wouldn’t want someone doing that to me, it wouldn’t be right. So why would I do that to my child.
Parent’s are paying for child devices so they should be able to have access to it, and checking on it once in a while. I think parents should also have a right because what if the child is having problems and the parent could help them, and make their life better.
Sometimes teenagers on the phone talk about inappropriate stuff like, dealing with rape, drugs, alcohol, that isn’t right for the ages 13-19, they are too young. If the parent bought the teenager a cell phone they should be able to give a little trust to the teen and not be able to check upon him/her once in a while.
In my opinion I think the parent should be able to trust the teen and check upon them once in a while.
In conclusion I would like to say that checking the teenager’s mails, checking there diaries, listening to there phone calls, and even checking there text message is very wrong, and it isn’t right to do that.
Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion it is not right for parents to do this but then if the teen is at a difficult stage or has problems then I find it is a good way to help the teen out. But everyone needs privacy and parents can’t violate this by saying ‘I’m their parent and I have the right to check whatever my child id doing whenever I want to’ because they can’t. Parents should understand that if the teen wants to show them something they will but if not then they won’t, parents doing this will only damage the relationship and the bond between them and the teen. Parents should also understand that as the teen grows up they will want to have more privacy and see themselves as more mature.
Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteI would have to be on both sides with this, I agree because sometimes parents might have a feeling something bad is going on their child’s life so they want to make sure everything is alright. But when parents decided to read our texts or open our mail or listen to our conversation then that is just their way of showing that they can’t trust us, or think that were lying to them. If something was really wrong then they would trust us to come to them. If I were a parent I would want my child to tell me if something was wrong, but I would be able to tell because their actions would probably change. A parent has the right to read there teenager’s things even more if their the one who had bought the device.
I disagree with the statement because teenagers have the right to their privacy, if they want to tell their parents something they will, when parents begin reading teenagers texts or mail, or listening to their conversations then that shows that they don’t have trust in their teens. When parents don’t show trust in their kids, the kids lose trust in their parents. I personally wouldn’t want my parents reading anything of mine, or listening to my conversations, if something was really wrong I would tell them. I find that when parents read things that we like to keep private its just rude, they don’t let us read anything of theirs so why do they get to read all of our texts or mail.
@Manga/Anime-Rules, so in conclusion what is your final answer and your final thought about this topic ? And what is your opinion .
ReplyDeleteBut gurinder if the parents are gonna rade the kids privacy it makes no sense for them to buy them a phone.
ReplyDeleteIs it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
I don’t think its okay for parents to listen to there teenagers phone calls, read there mail there diaries and check there texts because it’s uncomfortable for the teenagers and they want to keep secrets to there self about there personal life that’s why they have a diary. And I don’t think there’s a point for the parents to listen to there teenagers phone calls or text it would make life more easier by you as a parent taking it away and if you’re going to take it first try to understand how you would feel if you were them and forgot you’re adult ways and were exactly like them you wouldn’t want youre parents reading youre text about youre boyfriend or diary where it says who you like because some parents would get mad and be like “Oh dating isn’t good and if youre going out it would ruin youre education” but what they say isn’t true because one of my friends parents told him when he was a kid that dating wasn’t good because they read his message on hotmail to a friend about his “girlfriend” and his parents gave him a lecture on it and it made no sense because his parents fell in love as kids and there parents vowed to get them married or something like that and it was hypocritical. There’s really no need for parents to do that because if we were to do any of that to them they would get angry at us and tell us to mind our own business.
All i have to say is that its not cool intruding kids privacy because yopu wouldnt want anyone doing that either
@talwinder, i agree its the teenagers personal life, you dont share your life with your parents so why should we share our personal messages, they never share theirs with us.
ReplyDeleteIn conclusion they should be able to look at their childs stuff but once in a while because they do pay for the stuff.
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I think that it isn’t right for parents to open their teenager’s mail, read their diaries or listen to their phone calls because everyone has their own privacy and its like parents just invade them. Like you wouldn’t see a teenager looking though their parents mail, reading their dairies, or even phone calls, and if a kid does do that then either the parent gets really annoyed and thinks you’re ease dropping or they either don’t mind. (which doesn’t happen a lot)Everyone has their privacy and sometimes I think a lot of teens would like to keep theirs if their parents weren’t too busy looking over it. Also even though sometimes it is about safety and at that point it’s ok. It mostly depends on how the parents like to deal with their teens. Like if their over protective they probably would and sometimes the kids don’t mind their parents going though their stuff, but who wants parents to listen to their phone calls. Another thing not always do the parents have to check though their mail and stuff because as I said how they deal with their kids, and depending on how much trust the parents put on you, either they wouldn’t have to or they would, or maybe even have trust and not have it at the same time, like maybe they would check their stuff while they aren’t their, so sometimes we wouldn’t even realize. Last thing, dairies aren’t really made for anyone to look though but the writer, so obviously it isn’t right to parents to look though their kids mail, diaries or listening to their phone calls.
-Janat :D
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ReplyDeleteQuestion-Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
Answer- I think that it’s not right for parents to open there teenagers mail, read there diaries, listen to their phone calls, or check there text because they should be able to trust there teen to do the right things so they don’t have to go into there mail to see if there doing the wrong thing or the right thing. Another reason I think it’s not right would be because if your parents don’t want you looking through there mail then why should they look through yours. Its all about privacy and how many parents think its ok to go through you mail because there your parents they should have the right to do whatever they want but its not like that, just because there your parents or there older does not give them permission to do so they should trust you enough so that they don’t have to go through your mail to find out what you up to. If your parents ask then it’s a different thing because there giving you the option to say yes or no. Then there asking if there allowed so there giving you your privacy. It’s normal for a parent to want to know what your doing but listening to your phone calls, checking your text and reading your diary might be going a bit overboard. Checking your mail is ok because your mall is not always thing that only concern you it can be a phone bill that your parents have to see or something involving your school. I saw letting your parents check your mail is ok but if your parents are checking your thing without telling you I saw is not right let alone ok.
The parents that are opening their kid’s mail, listening to their phone calls, reading their texts are being over protective or they don’t trust their kids. Because in many cases in high school teens get in to the wrong stuff such as drinking, smoking, or they get in to gangs in high school. It think its not right to do all this stuff cause then the child will think he or she as no personal space and they might feel suffocated in between all this over protective or they might feel that their parents don’t trust them that might lead them in to bad things such as use of drugs or smoking and maybe drinking. When parents are over protective the child gets mad and do silly stuff maybe talking in anger. But parents have rights to do all that but they shouldn’t do it to much that the child starts thinking that his parents are always watching him. If the teen does something wrong and the parents find out and they give him a severe punishment he or she would think that they are always going to be treated like this but it doesn’t mean that they stop doing things that teens do they wont care cause they would know that they have get there own freedom there parents aren’t going to give them freedom so they wont let their parents do such things or they wont let them read their texts or they will shout at them and all that kind of stuff. So parents should check their mails or read their texts. But in limit so every 2 months once in a long time so their kids don suspect that there being watched on.
ReplyDeleteAnswer: I think that parents should not be allowed to go through their teen’s mail, diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their text messages, because a lot of teens now are having their privacy taken from them, and it tends to destroy the relationship with the parents, I also think that parents can be a little over protective because most teens are angry with the way their parents treat them, and it comes to the point where they don’t feel the trust or get the trust that they want from their parents. When I use the computer my parents are always checking what I do, they know I’m responsible but the don’t want to except the fact that I need my own privacy. Like with my brother he gets to do what he wants on the computer but yet they don’t bother him about what he’s doing. But now some teens get their trust from their parents but yet they abuse it by putting it on Facebook or any other site, and it puts their personal life out there, and relatives find out and what do you know….you cant be trusted your privacy is taken from you, so this is all about responsibility (trust) and how you use it wisely.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I don’t think it is okay for parents to open their teenagers’ mail, read their diaries, listen to the their phone calls, and check their texts because first of all it is an invasion of privacy and opening other peoples’ mail is against the law, even if it is your child’s. Doing that will give a message to your child that you don’t trust them enough to let them get mail, talk to people on the phone and text their friends. And if your child sees that you can’t trust them then your relationship with your child is broken because if you can’t trust them then they won’t be able to trust you and to be able to live together, you need to be able to trust one another and if they can’t trust you, then they will probably end up trusting their friends and doing drugs and alcohol because if they will think about what you said about not doing drugs and alcohol and not trust your judgement. Parents should understand that if they never went to you with their personal life then they don’t want you reading their mail, texts, diary and listening to their phone calls.
ReplyDeleteSo in conclusion, open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listens to their phone calls, and checking their texts isn’t okay or right unless you want a bad relationship between you two.
I think that some of the time it is ok because what if their child is hiding something from that could put the child. The parents should care for their child. At the same time I think it is not ok because you should thrust your child to do the right instead of going through the child’s things. That will look bad on you if you get caught and on top of that it is also bad parenting.You should let your kid have some freedom and if he/she catches you they might start to hide even more things from and since they have no one to tell it to they might start to go through depression. They won’t fell comfortable anywhere and they will start to be bad in school, hang out with the druges, and drop out of school, start breaking the law and other things that might cause them to go to jail. Worst of all they might not want to see you or speak to you again. That might hurt you and make you remember that mistake for the rest of your life.
ReplyDelete@Master chief, i agree with you because if your parent's did what they are telling you not to do when they were a kid, that isn't fair. But at the same time they should mind their own business and there own personal life.
ReplyDelete@Talwinder i agree but if the teen has bad habits they have a right to but i mostly disagree because parents have to respect the fact that teens need their own privacy
ReplyDelete@ bailey i agre with your response because alot of teens are losing their privacy and their trust, you are right the need to check our mail or messages every once in a while.
ReplyDeleteIs it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers’ mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteI understand for parents to check their child’s texts, because it is good to be protective and know what your child is talking about with their own friends. Although is do see it as a major invasion of privacy to by reading their own child’s diaries and their own mail and listening to their own phone calls. The child puts all their trust and secrets into their own diary for them selves to know, they put it in there specifically for no one to see, even their parents. Not only would I call that an invasion of privacy, but I see that as rude, nosey and giving the child no freedom to right what he or she wants, now knowing that their parents are going to read their every word.
Firstly I would like, to pose a question to those parents. Would you be happy if some stranger came and opened your mail and looked through your bills and letters etc. I wouldn’t, mail is personal and you could get in trouble for opening it if it doesn’t have your own name on it. Who in their right mind would open someone else’s mail. I just see that as wrong.
Lastly I don’t think I could ever have a decent phone call with a friend again, knowing I have some one else on the line listening to my every word. That is probably the biggest invasion of privacy I could think of. What do parents have listening to their child, what are they looking for, bad language, its almost irelivant for a child not to sware, because regardless of not, we all sware at some point. Half the time the parent have no idea what the child is talking about anyway.
That what I think.
Question: Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteI don’t believe it is okay for parents to open their teenagers’ mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, or check their texts because I think that the parents are going to be reading their secrets and thoughts that teenagers’ wouldn’t want their parents to know because their afraid of what they might think or they might be embarrassed to tell their parents or the teenagers just don’t want their parents to know because there’s something’s that they want to keep from their parents. It may as well be okay for parents to read them but I think they should only do that when they feel that something suspicious is going on, for example; if they think their teenagers’ are doing drugs or if they think that their doing something bad and that is unrelated to anything good... but I sense reading their diaries wouldn’t be right because they write personal thoughts in their diaries, thoughts they wouldn’t want anybody else to see. I think that most parents would think it’s alright to look their teenagers’ possessions… but what they don’t realize is if they catch their parents doing that they might not be able to trust them that much with their private thoughts. Parents may feel that since they bought the devices for their teenagers, they would also have access to it because they paid for it… but teenagers believe that they have the right over it because the parents gave it them and it is now apart of their belongings. If I was in the position of my parents wanting to check my mail, listen to my phone calls, or check my texts I wouldn’t like it, because I don’t even check my mail therefore I definitely wouldn’t want them checking it, if they were listening to my phone calls I think I wouldn’t be able to talk as freely to my friends as I would if I was on the phone with my friends with nobody around because I wouldn’t need to worry about anybody hearing what I am talking about, I wouldn’t like it one bit if my parents were reading my texts because I wouldn’t want my parents to see what me and my friends text about because sometimes its about private things, or sometimes its just about making plans for the weekends. If I was a parent, I think I would want to know what my child was doing at school and with their friends, and I would only go through their personal things if I had to, and if I feel like their doing something wrong, but I would also know what the teenager would feel like having a parent go through their personal things because mostly everyone has experienced it sometime. All in all , I think it might be okay if the parents read text messages, but they might read something their not supposed to read, for example; gossip. What I don’t consider is okay is for them to read things that might have their teenagers thoughts because the teenagers’ wouldn’t want their parents to see their thoughts, that’s why they wouldn’t tell their parents about it.
@ gurinder i agree with thmail the parents do give youthe things but they can't take it back it is like taking a gift back after you give it to someone.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Niida, i wouldn't want my parent's to read my personal text messages, be on the other line to hear my phone conversations, but if i were a parent i would want to be updated on my kids social lives. But at the same time, i wouldn't want my parents to always be stalking me everywhere, looking at what i am doing, they should be able to trust what i am doing and not trust me and just stalk me everywhere..
ReplyDeleteGood response Niida.
@Plan B en-G , i agree with you but the question you have,when parents check their childs mail or whatever, there not an stranger to you, so why would you ask that question, if an random stranger would check their mail??our parents arent really strangers to us even if checking though our mail is wrong
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ReplyDeleteQuestion: Is it ever okay for parents to check there teenagers’ mail, read there diaries, listen to there phone calls, and check there texts?
Well what I think is that if the parents are checking there teenagers’ mail, dairies, phone calls, and text everyday then they should not do it because teenagers should have there own personal things to. They can take care of themselves you know they are not 5 years old anymore and so they don’t have to share everything with there parents. But if the parents are checking those things in a while like maybe once or twice a month or so then I think that it is okay because parents are suppose to be taking care of them and have to know that what they do at school and things like that because when teenagers are really attracted to those things like talking on phones, texting things, going on internet (face book, mails and etc) then they pay more attention on this things more then they do on their studies and so sometimes when parents realize that they don’t study they have to check this things regularly because all the parents want there kids to study hard and become something when they grow up and if they see that their child(s) are always doing things they aren’t suppose to then doesn’t matter who it is every parent will check all this things.
What I think is that parents don’t like checking all this things but when they realize or notice something is changed in you then they have to check these things because they are the ones who are suppose to be looking after you and when they see that you don’t study anymore.
So I think that the teenagers are responsible for what they do like making their parents to check all this things because teenagers get so attracted to do all this things and don’t study and do what they are suppose to do. Like I am not saying that they should not mail or text or anything like that but they should be aware of what’s going on like there is a time and a place for everything and so it does not mean that you would text and make phone calls all day you know you have your homework and studying to do too. And when you don’t do this your parents notice something different about you and then they would obviously check all this things and so I think it not anything new about parents checking all this things.
But my opinion to this question is that they should check all this things in a while and not everyday. So I agree and disagree.
If my parents would check this kind of things then I think that I would be a little bit displeased because those are my personal things which I would not like anyone to now or share but at the same time I would now that I did something wrong that made my parents check my dairies and my mail because like I said parents check all this things when they notice something different about you and I would not do that again, and that will not make my parents have to check all this things.
I would never do this unless I really have to like say if they were really out of control and would not do anything else then just texting and chatting then I think that I would do this but just to check I think that I would not do this because I would know how it feels and I would also know that those are there personal things which they would probably not want to share with me. And so this is what I think about this question.
i agree with your opinion talwinder but don't you think that parents always checking all these things make the teenager feel that their parents don't trust them?
ReplyDelete@Hitakshee, i don't understand what you are trying to ask me ..
ReplyDeleteAdam i agree with you in your first paragraph its true.There kids might feel like there parents dont trust them and thats rude cuz the last thing u want is to have your parents not trust you. Teens have secrets that they could express with in them by writing in their diaries.
ReplyDeleteYeah I agree with you taurn, and to extend your response you don't want your parents reading the diary, because its there personal feelings .. and i wouldn't like it if i had a diary and my parents were taking a peek through it, its my own privacy and it has deep feelings in it.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest of all of this that makes me mad is that listening to the phone calls that they get from their friends. Would you like it when you were a child and your parent’s listened to the phone calls that you get from your friends? That’s like trespassing on to some ones property on propose I think who ever does that should pay some type of a fine or face severe consequences.
ReplyDeletei agree and disagree with this statment now that i have seen some of the other comments because the parents buy you the things so they should be able to to look at your cell phones ONLY and only once in a while but Diaries that makes no sense since that something only for them
ReplyDelete@janat i agree with you for the part of when oyu mentioned trust,and i think its true if your parents need to find out what your up they should just ask and not snoop throught your mail and text.if you alow then them its another thing but if they do it and you dont alow then i think its not rigt to
ReplyDeletetrue steph but dont you think that not many parents would go aroung asking their kids "can i go thought your mail, read your texts and listen to your phone calls",not many parents do that so either they just sneek it or trust them alot that they think they wouldnt need to
ReplyDeleteOk Usman If your parents pay for your stuff it doesn’t mean that they go through your private stuff whenever they want it’s just plain wrong. What if your mom or dad buys you a cell phone and they go through all the calls you’ve done or have gotten would you like that or the listen to your messages you don’t want that.
ReplyDeleteUsman I don’t think they look through our stuff cause they think were babies its cause they are just overprotective that’s what all parents do. They don’t want us to go in the wrong froup of people or the just want to keep save from the world.
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ReplyDelete@ tarun i did not say they can look at it at any time but they should be able to look at once in a while to keep you safe becasue you could be doing something wrong without even knowing it
ReplyDelete@ Talwinder
ReplyDeleteSince you do think that it is good that their parents are checking through their stuff & its not good, what would your reaction be if you seen them looking through your private things? So basically since you think its both , would you mind or not?
@ Usman
ReplyDeleteSo in your response you are basically saying their so close to their child and they think of them as their baby that they have to look through their private things?
@Pamela, My reaction would be anger, surprised, and frustrated, and i would mind.
ReplyDeleteI change my answer to so in conclusion parent's shouldn't go through children's personal lives.
LOOL , why do you change your answer talwinder?
ReplyDeleteDid it come to your head that it isnt acceptable :P ?
@ pamelaa ya basically they think we can't take care of are own self they think they are some kind of safety moniter but for some childern those kind of parents are important.
ReplyDelete@Pamela, i knew it from the beginning that it was wrong, but i never thought i forgot to mention it in my little explanation .. oops
ReplyDeleteI think that it ok to check in a while but every now and then it just isn’t right, I mean they are teenager they can take care of themselves and also they need their own space they can take care of their personal thing themselves. I am saying that it ok for their parents to check they stuff once in a while, but not their personal stuff like diaries, text and phones call. Mail and other stuff that they don’t have to check to make sure that their child, child is more now like a gown up person. The parents by now at least trust their child to make sure they are safe and they should know to make the right decisions and know what is wrong and what is right. Well if they find or feel something thing strange they are going to check these things to make sure that the teenager is not in or on any trouble. After all they are the ones who are supposed to lead their child the right way.
ReplyDeleteAnd also the teenagers should be paying more interest in studies’ then paying more time in checking their phones calls and email. I mean now is the most important time of all the school life. Now days this it what teenagers do to spend time, more then being active and paying more interest in technologies which is good.
many of you are fixated on privacy. most notably yours.
ReplyDeletehmm perhaps switch the perspective and you have 2 teenage children...would you be sneaking around to find out what your children are up too?
how many teens, including yourself, are open an honest enough with their parents?
as an example do you chat with them how you chat on facebook? is it ok for your parents to explore your facebook activity?
ps we are going to have an emergency movie meeting tomorrow...we have had such a slow down in production that we are in danger of missing all dates for our film.
ReplyDelete@ usman I disagree with your idea of having them go through our things even if it is once a while still it is rude. For example if we go through their things they might be that we are being rude by going through their things.
ReplyDelete@ talwinder and Pamela
ReplyDeleteif a parents checks once in a while to make sure you are not into any kind of trouble then isn't that taking care of you. But yes, if it is constantly done and a person feels like the parent doesn't trust them then that different.
@ Cheney I wouldn't be sneaking around trying to see what they are up to cause if you think about it we don't like it either so why do the same mistake? I would just ask them instead.
ReplyDeleteI'm some what open not that much i keep the personal things to my self since it is personal and you don't want people to know about it. But for some reason it seems like it is easier to trust your friends then it is to trust your parents.
@ sharpshooter
ReplyDeletewhat if the checking would be done with your present,would that be rude?
@Heli, i agree but if the parent doesn't check then they are giving you a responsibility to not be bad, and there are giving you way beyond more trust.
ReplyDelete@Cheney, if i had to teenage girls i would never bother them i would give them a lot of trust and if i check up on them once and i see something bad they are going to have to learn to punishment and take it the hard way.
@ thomas it is kind of important for parents to check once because you could be doing somthig wrong with out even knowing or you could be dealing drugs or taking them cause in high school some kids go therw alot
ReplyDeleteFor a parent to read our text, mails or listening to our phone call is an invasion of our privacy since that is our personal life. But they check because they want to know how we are doing and if we are safe. And if they find something out about you like your dating they will look down on you, most likely giving you a lecture on how you should be caring about school more then just having fun.
ReplyDeletethere is a relationship between their child and the parent but when you star wanting privacy that just disappears like it never existed. They treat us as if we are still little but they do care about us.
@ usman i agree with you so they know that we are okay but with out our permission that is rude it would be better if they just ask us.
ReplyDelete@ heli if you know that they are checking and they are checking with you that's okay as long as they are not doing it without you knowing.
ReplyDelete@Usman i agree with you because teens in high school do a lot of stuff, they deal with rape, teen pregnancy, drugs, alcohol, parties with a lot of disturbing stuff in there, so it is good if the parent check upon them once in a while.
ReplyDelete@ Heli
ReplyDeleteYeah it is kind of taking care of you but obviously the teenagers dont think its needed. Im pretty sure the teens would care if it was considered as 'taking care of them'.
@Mr Cheney I'm a hypocrite about these types of situations.I go on facebook but my parent's dont know I have one...I do take advantage of this power.My conversations with my parents are very calm and intelligent.Swear words,slang and disrespect doesn't exist when I speak to my parents.
ReplyDeleteBut then,on facebook...
The violence,the curses and the demon in my vocabulary erupts from my fingers into the keyboards,and I turn into a completely different person.You could say,it's a Jekkel and Hyde kind of thing.The strange potion being the computer,and the scientific power being the advantage in this case.
My parents are unsophisticated when it comes to computers,you could say they aren't...
''tech-posh''
I would be very uncomfortable letting them see my behavior on the internet.Another example would be MMORPGS...(online games)
There is no respect or obeyment (is obeyment a word?) when it comes to gaming online and interacting with other people all over the world.
If I had teenagers,I would let them know my advice and my thoughts on the power they are obtaining by having these devices,and leaving them alone with this so they can use it how they please.After I have told them what their responsibility is,I'd trust them with it...And if they fail to do so...I'm going to take away everything and make them suffer
ReplyDeleteBut this type of response of letting them keep their privacy is biased,since there was a direction pushed to lead to this answer.Of course I would sneak up on them,and of course I would spy.
@Talwinder Maybe you could say that the invasion of privacy for the intention of security is...Something that feels wrong but needs to be done? It's better to be ''safe than sorry''?
ReplyDeleteTeens,(if they don't already know) have to give up their privacy so the parents can have their minds at ease.Maybe the situation is to trade privacy for peace?
@Mr Cheney For the final script,have you made any drastic changes that I might need to research upon? It would be great to know before 10 pm...So I may start my enlightenment of the new changes in the morning...at 6 am?
ReplyDelete@Master Chief The parents might not know the consequences,or maybe they do understand it but they are going to trust their child with the power in order to have a sense of safety.
ReplyDeleteIt's like parents are giving the potential of joining gangs,inappropriate behavior both physically and verbally to the teen in order to have the teen have a phone to call in emergency.
Like taking away the safety of the teen to have an emergency solution...And only if the emergency solution works most of the time.
Too many things have to be sacrificed for something else.
i agree with that janat they arent strangers.
ReplyDelete@ Mr.Cheney, most of the time i am honest with my parents. because i know that USUALLY what ever i tell them isn't going to be very effective, in a positive or negative way. their your parents, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or scared to tell them something, they are really the only person you can trust, i USUALLY tell my parents everything. the USUALLY is just stuff that nether of us wants to know :P
I'll work on script till morning, we can finish before lunch
ReplyDeleteTrading privacy for peace is a concept employed by many governments. Our governments are constantly invading privacy in the name of peace, and increasingly so since 9/11. It seems parents may do the same.
ReplyDeleteTrust is an important factor, however trust like genuine respect is often taken advantage off.
Any thoughts
@ adam i agree with you most of the time it is easy to tell your parents about things but if they we doing something bad like drinking or drugs and many other stuff that kind of stuff is hard to tell sometimes not being able to tell can lead to succied.that is why parents should look through their childs stuff
ReplyDelete@ Darthinder, my parents didn't know that i had a Facebook account either. than farm ville happened (thats a long story). I disobeyed my parents because they didn't want me to get it, my cousin told me it was boring and there was not a lot to do. i thought the same thing would happen to me, and that a week later it would slip through my fingers. the only reason i wanted it was because all my friends wanted me to get it. so i thought that would be the only way to get them all to shut them all up, but eventually i got really in to it and now i'm on every day, (really just to keep myself busy). Now i realize why our parents check all our stuff, is because of all of this, stupid thing they call peer pressure. look at my hair. it wouldn't be like that if all those people kept saying "straight you hair" "you will look better. even though i didn't dis obeyed anyone there, i wouldn't have happened if no one talked. So thats why our parents do all that stuff, because it can change your perspective of the way you look at everything for good or for bad. Our parents just check so that if you look the right way.
ReplyDelete@ mr.cheney this is true people take trust for granted whith out trust they would there would be absoloutly nothing it is like they changed the meaning of trust to the exact oppisite
ReplyDelete@Plan (ew...farm ville that game is boring)
ReplyDeleteWhat you mean is...Parents are worried you'll go into the wrong direction,so it's okay that they check in the name of privacy?
@Mr Cheney As technology will become more advanced,humans will become more dangerous...Could that relate to this? As time is going to go by,more dangerous people will be out on the streets,meaning the ''parents of tommorrow'' which are the children of today will be more protective of their young than how protective they are now?
I agree with u adam but for me my brother had a fb account and i saw him play games in it so i was bored so i made an account and first i played the games then my freinds made fb accounts so then i became and addict on almost everyday like u
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Question: Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers’ mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteAnswer: No, I do not think that this is okay for parents to do that. It is a large invasion into their teenagers’ privacy. And sometimes, their phone calls or texts or diaries are the few things they have that are private. So listening in on their phone calls or reading their texts leaves them with almost no privacy and that could make them feel insecure and upset because they have no where to say how they really feel. Also, being private doesn’t mean they are hiding something from their parents’ if that is the reason why the parents are listening in. It just means that they have something to say but don’t want other people (their parents) to know about it because maybe they are uncomfortable with it. And I also think that reading their teenagers’ diaries is never okay because a diary is where they put all their secrets and can write whatever they want and aren’t judged or made fun of or yelled at. That’s why there are diaries so they can express their feelings somewhere without keeping it all bottled up inside them. Diaries (and sometimes mail too) are part of their privacy and maybe security too. So if their parents’ were to take that away from them and read their diary, their mail or their texts, then I don’t think that anything good could come from that. They wouldn’t be able to express their true feelings out of fear they might get in trouble for saying something their parents’ find wrong. The only good I could see from a parent doing all this is that they would know that their teenager would be safe and not doing anything dangerous. Then again, that might not even be true because the teenager could lie when they are talking or writing because they don’t want to get in trouble by their parents. Even so, like I mentioned before, their teenager would not be expressing their true feelings in the fear they would get in trouble. This would leave them with a mix of emotions; anger, sadness, happiness, fear, nervousness etc and that can’t be good, especially if done for too long. And their parents’ might just be wasting time doing this when they could be doing much more productive things other than read their teenagers’ text which says “There was so much homework!” Also, with the parents doing this, it shows that they can’t trust their teenager and must do this to ensure their safety. And no trust within a family can lead to a disconnect between everyone.
So I do not think that it is ever okay for a parent to listen to their teenagers’ phone calls or read their diaries, mail or texts because it loses the family’s trust with each other, can decrease the productivity produced by the parents’ and invades their teenagers’ privacy greatly. It can leave their teenager with a mix of emotions and make them feel insecure. In my opinion, doing this would not benefit anyone-teenager or parent-so it is not okay and should not be done.
Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to the their phone calls, and check their texts?:\
ReplyDeleteWell, I think that parents have the right to do all these things, but with the permission of their child, otherwise there would be an invasion of privacy, but then is there an invasion of privacy between teenagers and parents? We live in a society that is becoming more and more independent everyday and I bet all of us at one point in our life have seen one of these forms of relaying information that we don’t want to show our parents, maybe because it is bad, to understate it, or it is just embarrassing. An example would be report cards, its sort of like mail, but instead of the mailman delivering it, it’s the teenager. Then the delivery of the report cards to parents is based on 3 things; the relationship of the parent to teenager, the grades inside (if already acknowledged), and the personality of the teenager. That determines whether the parents should or should not follow the statement.
Remember when I said there was more independence in our society, which means we do more and more things without our parents’ consents, and that tends to work out beautifully, in some cases, but the massive amount of activity that occurs without consent could tremendously be wrong. For instance, it could be buying them a car for their birthday (I wish I had that kind of money) and receiving a receipt through the mail, or a phone confirmation, or it could be as dangerous as smoking pot, and having the police catch you, which is becoming more and more common everyday, as it is becoming popular in the youthful ages of the higher teenage to the mid 20s, and there are cases where very young children are exposed to such dangerous material. Why this is happening? Because society is growing rapidly, and this could relate to poverty. Let’s say, if there was a poor family, and the parents were always working to get whatever tiny amount of wages they make, and they were always working 18-20 hours a day, of course they would be exhausted, but what about the kids, they would have to be more independent, rely on their own skills and knowledge in able to thrive and survive. With that much independence, you can pretty much do anything, and it’s either for the better or for the worse, but I doubt that poor families can afford cell phones for their family, let alone have the texting feature on it. In a rich family, there is lesser independence because the family relies more on what money can buy, and money can buy everything. You can hire a cook to do your cooking; you can hire a cleaner to do your cleaning, you can hire a gardener to garden, and all that while you can relax and enjoy yourself. This then may determine what the teenager’s work habits also are. If they are poor, usually they don’t perform as well in school, because of their responsibilities, if they are very studious, that means that they are well balanced to deal with all that is going on in their life. A teenager from a rich family has the opposite extremes. They have life too easy to have any worries, so then they take life for granted and live on the lifeline of money, so they don’t care for school because of the fact that they know that their loaded and set for life. That says something about the character of the rich teenager and the poor teenager.
Question: Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to the their phone calls, and check their texts ?
ReplyDeleteAwnser: No, I don’t think it is ever right for teenagers’ parents to go through there mail, diaries, listen to there phone calls or, check there texts. Parents don’t seem to understand that those items are teenagers’ most treasured items, and most private items, just the thought of my parents looking through my text messages, or reading through my diary just isn’t right. Honestly, a teenagers life isn’t as simple as it sounds, everything is just out in the open, a teenager needs something that can keep their secrets, and help them express there feelings and emotions , and it doesn’t help knowing your parents at any moment could be reading or listening to your calls about your problems. We all know everyone wants there privacy, and especially teenagers, Parents also want privacy, I bet your parents wouldn’t like it if we were looking through there private emails, and listening to there calls, so it just doesn’t sound fair that parents could be doing the same to us. Like really , we know you love us and all and want to keep us as safe as possible but , just don’t look through our personal items, that’s just not right, to me that’s crossing the line.
Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteMost parents think that they should be protective over their child by reading their personal things, but the children do not appreciate it. I do not think it is respectable because teenagers should be able to do things without their parents knowing about it. Usually parents should know that diaries should be only read by the keeper of the diary. Also a diary is the most private thing a teen can have. They have their secrets in the diary themselves to see, and when parents peek through it, it is very disrespectful. I am pretty sure that when parents have a phone call with whoever they are talking about, they don’t want their child listening to their conversation, so in that matter they shouldn’t be listening to their teenagers’ phone calls. Texts and mail are probably considered to be the same thing to parents, but for teenagers texts are more important because their phone is always with them and the computer can be pretty useless. Texts are an ongoing thing in our society because it is fast and simple so I am pretty sure that’s were most of the gossip is. It’s not easy for a parent to read their teenagers texts because they usually have their phone on them all the time. Unless they ask them for it and they make their child give it to them. So after the parents do check their entire private things and they find negative information, they will be disappointed and may take their privileges away. BUT, when the teen finds out that their parents went through their personal things, they will be very upset with the parent and start an argument – and I am pretty sure the parents will feel guilty. So to end it off teenagers’ should be able to do things without their parents looking through it and teenagers shouldn’t be doing anything bad that would make their parents disappointed.
Many teenagers in Canada and the U.S.A are having this problem of parents checking their privacy stuff like their mail, diaries, listening to their kid’s calls, and reading their texts. Parents should not do this because it’s basically stalking them. All kids when they turn 14 the secret keeping flu strikes, when teens don’t want their parents knowing what their doing at all times. Everyone needs space and to get that space the need to keep secrets and that’s when the advantage comes in with teens. That’ll lead to drugs and smoking. So this question is good and bad.
ReplyDeleteBad: Teens need space and will start to go away from the family if parents keep checking their children’s mail, text, and so on.
Good: Parents will know what their kids are doing if bad or good, and that’s when the trust factor comes. Parents will trust that their kids are not doing something bad on the internet, school, or anywhere else so they will leave them alone.
In my opinion, parents should be able to trust their teens with such responsibility. If they can’t trust them, then try to teach them a lesson. To be a young adult, you must take care of your actions, and misusing it just shows that you won’t be able to take on such responsibility. In Conclusion, privacy is something that shouldn’t be invaded because it is a special sense of almost safety and peace, and parents should be able to trust their teens.
Is it ever ok for parents to open their teenagers' mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteWell in my opinion it greatly depends on the circumstances, e.g. say the child may have ties to gangs or may be experimenting with drugs in these instances I feel it is definitely alright for parents to check personal outlets such as these. The reason I say this is simple parents have your best interest in mind and they don’t want to see their child getting hurt in any way shape or form. And in many cases it is the parents who provide these materials in the first place.
Some may call it an invasion of privacy but what is that privacy really worth if the child is being black mailed into killing someone by a gang leader of some sort. Some may call this situation one in a million but the startling reality is that more and more teenagers are dying because of gang violence than ever before. The other day I was watching a documentary about an Edmonton youth who died because of gang violence who prior seemed perfectly normal to his parents and those around him. I believe its best not to dwell on what would have been but it’s possible that if his parents had opened his mail or listened to his phone calls that he might been saved.
I don’t think that anyone would rather die than have his privacy invaded by his parents. So in these cases I feel it is more than ok for parents to check their child’s mail or texts. Anyone can change and if they seem able to be trusted at one point it doesn’t mean that they are immune to outside influences like kids at their school who mean ill.
But on the other hand once children get to that age of maturity the parents should be able to trust them to make the right choices. If I were to take the question and make it personal I’d be Ok with a parent looking at my personal possessions because I know that they would not look just for the sake of snooping around but because they care.
So in conclusion I believe there are times when it is absolutely alright for a parent to check their child’s mail, texts, or listen to their phone calls.
Is it ever okay for parents to open their teenagers’ mail, read their diaries, listen to their phone calls, and check their texts?
ReplyDeleteYes, it is alright for teenagers parents to check their teens e-mail, diaries, phone calls, and texts because they need to know if the child that they raised, care for and love very much is going onto a wrong path or right.
Parents don’t want their child to ruin their life and the reputation of their family by possibly dealing with drugs, going to jail, doing wrong things because parents love their children and don’t want to see their kids being hurt and unsuccessful and hated.
Most (not all) teenagers think that they are mature and know more than their parents do so they start to turn on the wrong path and start dealing with drugs negative activities etc. and that’s how many teens go to jail, lose their respect in society, (etc.) and so they become hated but if only their parents had taken the time and responsibility to check their phone call, diaries, texts,
e-mail then just maybe those teens wouldn’t have walked on the wrong path and lost their respect in society.
So, really parents should be encouraged to take a look at what their teen is doing by checking their teens
e-mail, phone calls, texts, diaries and what ever else they may think of so that their teen in the future is successful, well respected, well trusted and most of all is walking on the right path and following the right moral values.